A friend and I were having lunch yesterday and we got talking about the passage in Titus 2, which admonishes the older women in the church to “train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled” (Titus 2:4-5).
And then we asked ourselves the question, where are these older women?
The conversation stemmed from knowledge of another couple whose marriage was on the edge of being destroyed. And in talking, we made that point that, after premarital counseling and the wedding ceremony, newlyweds are essentially left to themselves to deal with things on their own. We’re taught not to talk down our spouse in front of others, to keep things private between ourselves and not share them with family and friends . . . but what about this command in Titus 2?
It is true that we are to take everything to God in prayer. It is true that He will give us wisdom and direction in every situation if we but ask Him. But it is also true that His Word has told us “in the multitude of counselors there is safety” – and that He has admonished older women to instruct us younger women in the areas of godly domesticity and family life.
But how can we initiate it? How can we receive that teaching if there is no one willing to teach? As the question is asked in Romans 10:14 regarding the sending of missionaries and preachers to the world, “And how are they to hear without someone preaching?” How are we to learn without someone teaching us?
Where are the older women? Oh, they are in our churches and our families, but where are they in the ministry? Some larger churches may offer programs for the older to teach the younger – but what about the small churches? Are we to be left out?
I ask you, older women, who are you teaching? Those who have years of experience and spiritual maturity, who are you mentoring in these things?
We may learn a few things merely from being acquainted with you; your testimony in front of us may impart some wisdom. But how can you fulfill this command if you do not “come alongside” a younger woman to actively instruct and listen and answer questions that she may have?
It has never seemed so important to obey this injunction as it does right now; marriages and families are falling apart, some due to flat-out rejection of spiritual truth, but many due to ignorance and lack of guidance. You can change that!
Think of the opportunity you could have to make a difference in the life of some younger woman – and thus make a difference with her spouse, her children, her grandchildren. There are so many ways you can do this: go out for coffee, start a Bible study, even communicate online if there’s someone within your reach on the internet. So reach out to someone. Get out of your comfort zone and find someone to teach.
Chances are, they will be more than ready to hear what you can share from your years of experience.