“I’ve come to realize that being a keeper of my home doesn’t require flawless perfection, and never has. It’s all about being a gift to my family and to the Lord through the small sacrifices I’ve made with a willing heart…”
Yes, this is actually my second book review in less than a week… reading is good, and I’ve finally been catching up on some of it! This book came from a fellow blogger, Darlene Schacht, who shares about marriage and ministry at Time-Warp Wife. I just started following her blog a few months ago, and it has been a constant source of blessing and encouragement ever since. So when she announced that her new e-book was coming out, I couldn’t wait to read it. It’s titled The Good Wife’s Guide: Embracing Your Role as a Help Meet, and I would encourage you to check out the trailer she created for it (either here or on her blog) and read the story behind it.
I thoroughly enjoyed Darlene’s personable writing style, her sense of humor, and the straightforward un-watered-down truth that she shared. She includes a lot of applicable Scripture, and makes her points straight from the Word of God (instead of twisting the Word around to make her points). She also shares a lot of practical advice such as cleaning schedules and organizing tips, ways to greet your husband at the end of the workday, and how to maintain a God-honoring attitude through all the laundry, dishes, computer time, and other responsibilities/tasks of the average wife’s day.
And can I share some of what I personally gleaned from this book? I’m not a mom, I live in a small rental house that doesn’t really have room to be disorganized, I’m on disability and don’t work outside the home… in other words, I’m not the average for my age or role. But I found a lot in The Good Wife’s Guide that applied to me! For instance, on the subject of time management, she makes the point that we must mesh what we consider important with how we prioritize: if I consider it important to have supper on the table for my husband every night, then I ought to consciously make it a priority every day. And on being “the perfect homemaker” she writes, “Stop looking over the fence, because green grass is temporal.” Love that quote! And on loving our husbands no matter what, she says, “If love was supposed to be easy, it wouldn’t need to be described as ‘patient.’ ” But the chapters I gleaned the most from were the ones on using resources wisely (“No Need of Spoil”) and on growing our love for our husbands (“Living in Unity”). She talks about discipline and self-sacrifice, and how we need both within our marriages. She talks about living so that our husbands “have no need of spoil” (Proverbs 31:11), mentioning practical things like turning off the lights and not over-buying perishable groceries. And she talks about dealing with conflict, and how it stretches the “marriage muscle,” and how we need strength training in our marriages just like in our bodies.
I would highly recommend The Good Wife’s Guide for any woman who wants to better understand her purpose as wife, and better fulfill her God-given role. I love that she includes some unique schedules and guides that can be adjusted to our own individual situations. I don’t really have trouble keeping my house clean, but her “25 Things” challenge and “25 Organizing Tips & Creative Ideas” certainly had some suggestions I could implement! And it will be a good resource to go back to, if and when my lifestyle changes and I need that extra help in keeping the house clean!
*Disclaimer: I received a free copy of The Good Wife’s Guide for the purpose of reviewing it. All opinions are completely my own.